How to Stop Anxiety and Fear with Dr. Carly Manly

Dan Pierce from Mentally Fit and Dr. Carla Manly talk about how to stop anxiety and fear. Watch the full discussion, then read anxiety experts and anxiety therapist responses to the video below!


​Dr. Tiffany Young

My name is Dr. Tiffany Young I am an Expert Mental Health Consultant and Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor. I am the owner of TY Mental Health Consulting Agency where we help businesses, communities, and families bring mental health to the forefront and help women struggling with anxiety problems create a true mindset reset and reach their anxiety goals.

Dr. Manly discusses two major forms of anxiety, the fear of not being loved and the fear of not being safe. In addition anxieties can also arise from traumatic experiences as well as the fear of being embarrassed and can cause various emotional responses including increased agitation, anger, and crying spells.

In her interview Dr. Manly mentions that one of the most important things with anxiety is "tracking it down" or in other words identifying the trigger. Identifying the cause or trigger of anxiety is a crucial step to reducing or healing from anxiety or fear. Triggers for anxiety may go back to childhood traumas or experiences or may be are recent or current. Discovering what is triggering your personal anxiety can help you take steps toward understanding your personal behavioral responses, problem solving, and setting appropriate boundaries.

Dr. Manly discusses utilizing mindfulness to reduce anxiety and fear, such as remaining in the present, deep breathing, and guided meditation. In addition to those helpful tips to reduce anxiety and fear, I believe that changing and connecting one's mindset to personal emotional responses is an important part of reducing symptoms. In order to truly heal and or stop anxiety symptoms one must acknowledge the issue, evaluate triggers, take ownership of their behaviors and responses, and plan for success. Anxiety is often about the struggle of the unknown, so having a plan for the day or anxiety provoking circumstances can reduce anxiety and fear by helping one to sort of "rehearse" the unknown.

​Latasha Matthews, LPC

My name is Latasha Matthews, LPC/Clinical Director at Illumination Counseling and Coaching, LLC. I work with children and adults on a variety issues to include anxiety, depression, grief/ loss, career goals and issues surrounding trauma, and self-worth.

I would add time management techniques and scheduling systems to reduce anxiety and fear. In addition, prioritizing intentional self-care activities is a must. Lastly, I would have clients learn to challenge their"inner critic" (negative self-talk causes fear and anxiety) and reassign the inner critics negative role assignment. I use visualization activities and journal writing to help clients communicate effective with their anxiety and fears. Writing helps clients determine how they can use fear and anxiety to benefit them.

I agree with Dr. Carla's points on the importance of being present and reducing judgement. I also, enjoyed her points stating that we should give ourselves what we need in the moment and learn to be authentic at all times. Lastly, her comments on focused breathing were excellent.

Vikki Louise, Life Coach

I agree we can always cope with our skills, but I would be mindful of changing situations and again would focus on what is happening internally.

Anxiety is always created from our thinking. Even the example of an "aggressive" boss is a thought. All thoughts are optional AND we have over 40,000 thoughts a day. Where we focus will create our results.

Of course, if I keep thinking my boss is aggressive, I am likely to feel anxiety. Anxiety is the ability to sense potential danger and thinking about an aggressive boss also indicated a potential danger.

We don't always have time to recognize our thinking. It can be a habit.  Our brain loves habits.

If every time you go into a work meeting with your boss you have anxiety, then the habit can be built in so soon just the mention of that person can now trigger anxiety, without even understanding the pre-programming and subconscious thinking behind it.

The first most important thing I hear all the time is the judgement around anxiety. A lot of people come to me with thoughts about their anxiety, creating anger, and thoughts about themselves for having anxiety, often creating guilt and shame.

It is so powerful to look into the reason we have anxiety, which I discuss on Episode 1 of my podcast. Anxiety was a skill long before it was a disorder, often learning that already creates a powerful shift.

The work is not to avoid and distract ourselves from anxiety, but allow it.. Anxiety is just an emotion. It is a feeling in our body. Like with anything, once you allow it you become the master of it.

We can survive anxiety. Anxiety no longer means imminent danger (like it has for tens of thousands of years).

Angela Anderson

My name is Angela Anderson and I am a professional PSYCH-K® Facilitator and former employee of the PSYCH-K® Centre International. PSYCH-K® is a profound set of processes that assist the subconscious mind to re-write self-limiting subconscious programs (beliefs) into life-enhancing subconscious programs (beliefs). The effect is freedom from the prison that holds you back from your full expression as a human being whose birthright is to create, experience, enjoy and share all the health, wealth, and happiness life has to offer. When I am not working with clients through my private practice and the power of the internet, I'm living the good life with my husband and two boys in Colorado, nestled at the base of Sangre de Cristo mountains and world traveling. If you also totally get how important it is to take care of your mind, body, and spirit while giving your all to your profession, family and more - you're going to love this work.

I agree with everything Carla said in the video and would like to add a few observations given my background in neuroscience and the study of epigenetics. Although anxiety is a part of who we are and has a message for us, our real goal is to increase our coping skills or transform the condition altogether so that it doesn’t overcome us so violently that it ruins our lives. Understanding the sources of anxiety can be helpful, as Carla suggests, however, all the knowledge and self awareness in the world might doesn’t necessarily change anything. It just gives a person a really good idea of the “who, what, where, when and why”. So, when do you get out of therapy and get a life? When you understand how your mind works, in particular your subconscious mind, and work with it so that you change your beliefs and perceptions that impact your life at a cellular level, so that real transformation can happen?

There are many paths to healing, such as the breathing and visualization techniques that Carla guided us through in the interview, however, all paths have to navigate through the “roadblocks” of the subconscious mind. Often, the subconscious mind is like a mine-field of limiting beliefs and old, outdated “programs”. These limiting subconscious beliefs affect all aspects of life: relationships, self-esteem, financial prosperity, career choices, and health. Only by clearing a safe path through these “roadblocks” can you reach a new place of expanded potential in your life and finally dissolve anxiety.

Carla’s explanation of sleep hygiene is extremely important, especially from a neuroscience and epigenetics perspective. Carla strongly encourages us to treat ourselves gently when we wake up and wind down before bed, so as to calm our minds instead of bombarding ourselves with social media and other common distractions, which lead to stress and anxiety. When dealing with the common fears Carla mentioned (judgement from others, being “enough”, being successful enough and being loved), Thomas Edison gives us great insight: “never go to sleep without a request to your subconscious." The reasons why you want to get a handle on the state of your mind first thing in the morning and when you wind down for bed are to not only reduce stress, but to direct the workings of your subconscious mind and program it for optimal health, wealth, and happiness! This is what dissolves anxiety and fear.

Finally, Carla notes that most people buy a book, read it, and then leave it to collect dust on their bookshelf. I agree. It’s important that we not only get real information, but we put into practice real tools and actions steps towards change.

Underneath the anxiety, fear, and worry is your soul yearning to express itself more fully. The answers lie within and it’s about learning how to use the power of your mind instead of your mind using you.